Finding My Own Pace
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Back in 1992, a friend named Dana approached me about running with her. She was a fanatic, and I, at first, resisted. Not letting a little “no” stand in her way, she persisted. After about three weeks of her continually trying to cajole me into being her running partner, I finally relented and went out for a run with her. Now running was not something I had ever considered doing previously. In fact, running was so distasteful to me that in high school when I was considering the military, I actually asked the recruiter which branch of the service would have the least amount of running. Now, I never did join the military, but eventually, the running caught up to me anyway.
Although she was great company, I really didn’t enjoy running with Dana as she had very long legs and a faster pace, not to mention that she was ten years younger than me, and had the non-stop energy of a pinball ricocheting around in a pinball machine. Every time we went out running, I had a hard time getting past the burning lungs and the aching legs.
Fortunately for me, as I mentioned before, Dana was a running nut. Her drive and enthusiasm made it possible for me to run just one more day, then another, and another. Her momentum became my momentum. I had to use her determination and love of the sport to get my butt out of bed when my entire body was screaming at me to “lay still and play dead”.
Although I still wasn’t really enjoying it too much, we ran 5 times a week. One day after probably three or four months of this torture, Dana was out of town, and she couldn’t make our morning run. I thanked my lucky stars, rolled over and tried to go back to sleep.
Notice the word “tried”.
Now I really don’t know what accident of nature got me out of bed to lace up my running shoes, but lo and behold, somehow I ended up heading out the door to run by myself, still dreading it, but somehow compelled to do it anyway.
I’ll never forget that day. That day was a turning point for me. I had been using my friend’s momentum to keep me running, but trying to keep up with her long legs made it such a struggle for me every day. The day that I ran by myself, it was actually enjoyable. At some point in the first few miles, I had a breakthrough – I got into a rhythm; I got to that point where everything just flows – I was one with my body and all my parts were working in harmony, and I didn’t have to focus on anything…not my breathing, not my legs, not the ground. Everything was in sync. It was actually easy.
I can still remember the color of the leaves changing in the fall and the deep blue color of the sky. It was an exhilarating feeling of well-being. I’d never even paid attention to the cracks in the sidewalk, or the details of where we really were each day. The difference was almost earth-shaking. And it was because I was able to run at my own pace, instead of hers.
When I started running with Dana, never could I have imagined that I’d still be at it sixteen years later, and not only loving it, but there’s an element of addiction to it.
First off, I would have never gotten here to this point without her. While I haven’t heard from her in over ten years, and have no idea where she is or what she’s doing these days, Dana was the catalyst that propelled me towards what is now my passion, running. Sometimes, although we don’t know it, we need someone or something else to push us towards something that we love.
But the other side of that coin is that it couldn’t become something that I loved until I owned it for myself. She got me started, but it was when she wasn’t even there that I actually took control of it and was able to make it my own thing. Previous to that, it was her thing that I just happened to be doing, too. As I look back, I am so grateful that my friend put me on the path, gave me a little (or perhaps “really big”) push to give me the momentum, that allowed me to eventually find my own pace.
How ‘bout it?
Vision Runner
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September 3rd, 2008 at 12:32 pm
Rhonda!
That was such a good blog! I didn’t want to stop reading it; it was so inspiring. I think this could really be a big thing if we get enough people interested, because once you read it, you can’t stop! I love reading your story and getting to know you better. You even made me want to start running, lol!
-Grant
September 3rd, 2008 at 3:42 pm
Grant!
You are my biggest supporter! Thank you so much for all the encouraging words; they mean a lot to me.
I think you are right, this thing can be huge! Let’s make it happen!
P.S. So what are you waiting for? Go get some running shoes!
Vision Runner
September 4th, 2008 at 7:14 pm
Truly inspiring, keep writing ; -)
September 11th, 2008 at 12:49 pm
Rhonda -
Your writing is exceptionally beautiful. I am excited to share your journey with you. My deepest thanks for inviting me to join you.
-Jessi
September 13th, 2008 at 12:38 am
Jessi!
I’m so glad you are enjoying the blog.
It’s my pleasure to take you along on my journey…Keep reading, I promise you won’t be disappointed!
Vision Runner
September 13th, 2008 at 10:55 pm
Wow girl, you are an amazing woman indeed and I am fortunate to be in that memory of your training days….not to mention airlines and mama….I am leaving in 2 days to Texas where I will visit my ailing father and sing karaoke with him….I will be gone til Feb. 2009. Just returned from Oregon coast camping on the beach…So sorry I am so lame to not call once in a while…time seems to run away faster than I can keep up…I think of you and with sweet sweet memories….I do hope I can change my busy life and see you again…I am so proud of you….run baby run and dont stop dreaming…..I love you dearly….Vickie
September 14th, 2008 at 12:51 am
Vickie!
I can’t tell you how happy I am to hear from you!
Thank you so much for reading my blog! You are a big part of my marathon training story, and other adventures!
Sorry about your dad, but I’m sure your being there will help him tremendously.
Please keep reading the blogs while there. You will be amazed at how this blog idea all came about!
Miss you, and love you too!
Keep leaving comments!
Vision Runner